“The pessimist complains about the wind…the optimist waits for it to change; the realist adjusts his sails.” – Lucio Seneca
I guess we all know people who could be described as pessimists and while we all have it within ourselves to be a bit down from time to time some people just seem to actually enjoy being depressed. These are the people who seem to be their own personal little storm clouds of doom and despair and seek to suck the very life-force out of all those around them. I bet you either know people like this in your life right now or have had known such people in the past.
The problem with people who complain about the wind (and everything else under the sun too) is that their pessimism can be contagious. If you are not careful they will bring you down with them and crush your spirit in the process. Given that we can never rid the world of negative people, the trick is to try and take control of how others interact with us.
When you find yourself in the company of someone who is being negative about everything, remember that you don’t have to follow them into a cycle of negativity. You can tell them that you don’t share their views but you don’t have to argue with them. There may come a time when the best solution is simply to remove yourself from the influence of negative people in your life. Instead start surrounding yourself with people who are smart, focused and goal-orientated so that you can be inspired by their positive emotions as you seek to improve your life every day.
Remember that your interactions with people should help you and not hurt you. Don’t wait for people to change – the chances are that they will not change – but adjust your sails and seek out the waters where others who share your goals and ambitions can be found. You are in control of your own life and that means you are in control of the people you choose to surround yourself with. Are you going to choose the negative energy vampires who want to suck the life-force out of you and leave you feeling drained and exhausted? Or are you going to choose the positive go-getters whose very actions and enthusiasm for life inspire you to even better things and challenge you on a daily basis? I know which group of people I want to have around me.